Married couples assume that the communication with the partner works. Psychologists disagree: According to studies, couples are often just as bad as strangers. Keeping communication is not easy - this is among strangers as friends alike. Nevertheless, it is surprising that persons close to misinterpret statements like that can happen to a stranger."People will automatically assume that they can communicate better with friends than with strangers," said Boaz Keysar of the University of Chicago. ". The close relationship can quickly lead to over-estimate people the quality of their communication" That was reflected in an experiment for which the researchers, two couples in a playful conversation situation offset: They sat with their backs to each other on chairs and tried to meaning of ambiguous statements to decipher the other.
A total of 24 couples participated in the experiment. The error is in the DetailDie scientists used sentences that fall in normal everyday conversation. But the analysis showed: All couples overestimated their ability to communicate clearly. "A woman says to her husband," pretty hot in here "as a hint, hint, turn the air conditioning up a little.
It may be very surprised if he interprets this sentence as a lewd remark, "says Kenneth Savitsky, researchers from Williams College in Massachusetts and lead author of the study, in cooperation with Boaz Keysar conducted another test. "This is the dilemma close relationships: The self-centeredness is stronger among friends than among strangers," the researchers write in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology ".
"It may be in a hurry or with the idea somewhere else, and take no more the prospect of another one - especially if one assumes that one understands anyway," said Kenneth Savitsky. The crux: Familiar require that both parties have the same information and statements are unnecessary so long as they larded statements strangers with more information.
With friends and partners also saves you the trouble of taking the perspective of the other. Friendship as VerständigungshindernisDas Kenneth Savitsky finished second in another experiment with 60 college students. The two students were sitting in front of the lab. They were separated by a box divided into compartments, the objects contained.
Some of the objects could not see each other the student. This student, the "speaker" should ask the other to move because of an object. The "speaker" was not clear that his request could be interpreted in two ways. For example, he asked them to move a mouse, the other had but two options: a computer mouse and a fabric mouse, the "spokesman" could not see.
Did the two study participants hesitated, the "non-speakers" longer, until he obliged the request in one way or another. Did they not focused on the non-speakers rather the object that the other could see. That is, replied in the latter case, the recipient of information in his opponent into it and responded to the rules of logic - but not friends behaved in this way.
This is the realization, "What I know is different from what you know" a significant insight into the gaps of understanding, say the researchers.
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